Dhammapada 6

Others do not understand: 'Here we are coming to an end

Others do not understand: 'Here we are coming to an end.' Those who understand this find that quarrels settle.

Translated from the Pāli by Banya

Pāli

Pare ca na vijānanti,
mayamettha yamāmase;
Ye ca tattha vijānanti,
tato sammanti medhagā.

In plain words

On the reading used here, remembering that our lives will end changes how we quarrel. The key Pāli verb is uncertain, so this mortality reading is a choice rather than the only possible meaning.

Key words

yamāmase
we come to an end — A mortality reading is adopted; a restraint reading is also possible.

The story behind the verse

The story of the monks of Kosambī (Kosambakavatthu)

Monks at Kosambī divide into opposing groups over a disciplinary dispute. They continue quarreling despite the Buddha's attempts to reconcile them, and he withdraws from their company. Lay supporters then refuse to support the quarrel through their offerings. The monks eventually seek reconciliation and the Buddha's guidance.

Retold by Banya from the traditional commentary, after E. W. Burlingame, Buddhist Legends (1921).

To reflect on

How might remembering life's limits change a quarrel today?

Try it today

Before continuing one disagreement, quietly acknowledge that both lives are finite.

Practise it with

Loving-kindness (mettā)

Explanation by Banya. Traditional readings vary.

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